How to Deal with Break-Ups

So, this may be a bit of a touchy subject, however, as much as we hate talking about it... Break-ups happen in every relationship. We've all been there and done that. For the time being, it may be really hard to deal with, but as long as you stay positive, you will be alright. 

First and foremost, there are many reasons why a relationship might be coming to an end... I think it's safe to say that we can all agree that not all relationships are a fairytale ending. Relationships take work and effort from both ends and as much as we'd like to try, sometimes, things just don't work out. 

Here are the common reasons why many couples break-up...

- Fell out of love 

- He cheated (check post "The C-Word - Dealing with Cheaters)

- Trust issues

- Always fighting

- He may want different things

- He moved / distance

- Conflicting issues with family and friends

So, how do we know when he might be ready to walk out? Guys aren’t known for initiating relationship conversations - which is why when/if they do break things off, it often seems like the bomb was dropped out of the blue.  

Here are some signs your boyfriend is ready to call it quits...

- He overloads at work

- He stopped inviting you to hang with his friends

- He keeps conversations neutral

- He boxes you out

- He stopped texting you sweet things

- Cuts off the PDA

For starters, the loss of a relationship can be incredibly hard - you may feel so much pain and heartache at the time and for all we know, this is the hardest part of a break-up, but remember it's not the end of the world, just like the famous saying "there are other fishes in the sea..." So, keep in mind that there is someone out there for everybody. When you are ready to move on, your perfect guy will come. Just don't look too hard!

   

Break-ups usually bring out a mixed of emotions and many times you may feel like you have to start over, and in reality, maybe it's just what we need. It may be hard for you to imagine your life without your boyfriend right now but truth is, you will move on. The only thing you have to do is to let yourself know that you will get through this. Stay positive. If it came to a point that one of you decide it isn't working out anymore, then it is time to re-evaluate what's best for the relationship and one another. Truth is, if there's only one person willing to work out on the relationship, no matter what the situation may be, as a couple, you will both have a difficult time dealing with any issues that you may have in the relationship. After all, it takes two to tango.

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Now, everyone handles their break-ups differently. The important thing to do is to take your time with it. It may have come from out of left field for you or you were already expecting it, but at the end of the day, it is what it is. The moving on process just depends on YOU. It's all in a matter of timing. Whenever you are ready to take those pictures down, hide those love letters or that stuffed teddy bear he gave you for Valentines day, whatever it may be, when you are ready to do so, you are taking the first step to moving on.

However, keep in mind, the longer you hold on to these feelings - the harder it will be to get over him. So during this process, consider surrounding yourselves with girlfriends and have fun with them. There is no use of sulking in and feeling depressed and thinking of 'what if' situations, what happened and what you could have done to prevent it - I'm sure we can come up with many reasons and things that we can do differently, but things happen for a reason.  Just see it as a thing of the past, and you need to move forward and move on.

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Take this time to refocus on yourself and the other relationships you have with your friends and family. Remember, it's not the end of the world - take it one day at a time, and move on at your own pace. Sooner or later, a new love interest might just be waiting around the corner.